Renting a Girlfriend in Tokyo The Real Guide

Tokyo is romantic and chaotic in the same hour. Neon rivers, perfect cafes, and then your brain freezes the moment you try to book a date style service in Japanese. I tried it once to learn social Japanese and see how a clean paid companion service actually works. I learned fast that this is role play and manners, not flirting and not intimacy. If you expect more you will have a bad night and maybe a bad call from staff. Here is the straight guide with the exact phrases you need and the lines you should never cross.

First things first What this service is and is not
レンタル彼女 rentaru kanojo means rental girlfriend. It is paid time with a companion for a public date plan like cafe, museum, or a walk. No touching. No private contact exchange. No hotel. Keep it public and polite. You pay for time and a set plan and you follow the rules.

How to say you want to try it
「初めてです。予約したいです。」
Hajimete desu. Yoyaku shitai desu.
I am new. I want to make a booking.

「何時間のプランがありますか。」
Nan jikan no puran ga arimasu ka.
What time plans do you have.

「カフェと散歩のプランでお願いします。」
Kafe to sanpo no puran de onegai shimasu.
Cafe and a walk please.

Confirm rules before you pay
「ルールを教えてください。」
Ruuru o oshiete kudasai.
Please tell me the rules.

「写真は撮ってもいいですか。」
Shashin wa totte mo ii desu ka.
Is a photo allowed.

「連絡先の交換はできますか。」
Renrakusaki no koukan wa dekimasu ka.
Can we exchange contact details.
Expect a no. Respect it.

Money talk without awkward pauses
「お支払いは先払いですか。」
Oshiharai wa sakibarai desu ka.
Do I pay in advance.

「カードは使えますか。」
Kaado wa tsukaemasu ka.
Can I use a card.

「キャンセル料金はありますか。」
Kyanseru ryoukin wa arimasu ka.
Is there a cancellation fee.

Meet up without confusion
「待ち合わせ場所はどこですか。」
Machiawase basho wa doko desu ka.
Where is the meeting spot.

「到着したら連絡します。」
Touchaku shitara renraku shimasu.
I will message when I arrive.

At the date keep it light and clear
「今日はよろしくお願いします。」
Kyou wa yoroshiku onegai shimasu.
Thank you for today.

「おすすめのお店はありますか。」
Osusume no omise wa arimasu ka.
Do you have a place you recommend.

「次はどこに行きますか。」
Tsugi wa doko ni ikimasu ka.
Where do we go next.

Hard line phrases you must not test
If you are unsure, ask staff first. Physical contact is almost always no. Private messages are no. Private rooms are no. If you push, the date ends and you still pay.

End the date like an adult
「今日はありがとうございました。」
Kyou wa arigatou gozaimashita.
Thank you for today.

「ここで大丈夫です。お気をつけて。」
Koko de daijoubu desu. Oki o tsukete.
Here is fine. Take care on your way.

What it actually feels like
It is closer to a guided city walk with a friendly host than a normal date. You choose a vibe like cute cafe tour or retro arcade or quiet garden. You talk about simple topics. You practice small talk and you learn a lot about daily manners in Japan. If you keep it respectful it is smooth and oddly calming.

Red flags that mean you should walk
Private apartment meet up. Cash sent to a personal account before any booking steps. Demands to turn off location sharing. Requests to drink hard alcohol fast. Any request that moves the date out of public spaces. Say no and leave.

Costs in plain words
Time blocks add up. Travel for the companion can be billed. Extra options like outfit choice or photo time can cost more and often are not allowed outside set spots. Tipping is not the culture. If service charges are listed, pay them and end clean.

If your Japanese slips here are simple backups
「ここがいいですか。」
Koko ga ii desu ka.
Is here good.

「すみません。ゆっくりお願いします。」
Sumimasen. Yukkuri onegai shimasu.
Sorry. Please speak slowly.

「日本語は少しだけ話せます。」
Nihongo wa sukoshi dake hanasemasu.
I only speak a little Japanese.

One practice scene
You meet at Shibuya Station. You greet and confirm the plan. You walk to a cafe and talk about coffee. You pay at the counter. You stroll through a bookstore. You end at the station. You say thank you and leave. That is a win.

Real talk
This is a legal paid companion service in public. It can be fun and harmless if you follow the rules and your expectations are adult. If you want romance this is not the lane. If you want a safe way to practice Japanese small talk and see the city with a local guide vibe, it works.

Final thoughts
Book the plan. Confirm the rules. Keep it public. Pay clean. Say thank you. Go home with a calm head and a better feel for how Tokyo dates actually flow.